Sexist School Stereotypes
Some Homecoming traditions offer objective views of women, double standard.
Homecoming is truly an exciting week, a week that features a tangible energy throughout the school. However, every year after Homecoming, I end up frustrated with many of our long-standing Homecoming traditions, which in my mind, are incredibly sexist.
The process for choosing the Homecoming Court is one example of this. The online voting for Homecoming Queen only provides the yearbook photograph of the student nominated with no accompanying message. Therefore, we are asked to select our Homecoming Queen based purely on looks. By asking students to select the Homecoming Queen this way, we are reiterating the message already perpetuated by society that a woman’s value is based on her looks, something any place of education should strive to avoid.
Our male students are not subjected to this; there is no Homecoming King election. So this isn’t just an issue of vanity; it’s an issue of female objectification. Later in the week, the Homecoming Queen nominees are crowned with their male “escorts,” or dates, accompanying them. Dictionary.com defines an escort as “a person accompanying another for protection or guidance.” Women don’t need “protection” or “guidance” from a man, and having our entire Homecoming Court bring men along with them enforces the outdated idea of the subservient woman and the
man who gives “his” woman protection, since she clearly can’t fend for herself.
The double standard is continued in the Legs King and Kiss Queen elections. While the women of CHS are told to show less leg in the CHS dress code, which bans “short skirts and shorts,” the men of the school are allowed to participate in a competition based on legs. The double standard here is glaringly obvious; if females were to do the same thing, it would be shut down as inappropriate, but when men do it, it’s fine. Then in the Kiss Queen election, students judge women on how good their “kiss prints” are. This, like Homecoming Queen, is an example of school encouraging students to judge women on points as vain as their looks and kissing ability.
There is also the issue of the pep rally. The Charisma’s dance, for example, can be truly uncomfortable for the female student body, as it is often full of sexual moves, and sitting in the stands surrounded by boys catcalling the dancers is not something the women of CHS should be subjected to. One moment that sticks out to me is hearing a boy behind me last year making a sexually disparaging comment directed at all of the dancers that was not only offensive but also too profane to print. Attendance at the pep rally is mandatory; I, along with all of the CHS women, am required to sit in a stadium every year and hear offensive female slurs yelled from all around me with no consequence. I’m not allowed to leave. I have to sit there and take it, no matter what happens, along with all of the other women of this school. Putting us females in an entirely powerless position like this where we must experience this sexism first hand is perhaps what angers me the most.
We have to change. I am sick of the double standards and objectification in this week. Either add some substance to the Homecoming Queen election, make it gender-neutral or do away with it altogether. Do away with Kiss Queen and Legs King or replace them with titles that are the same for both genders. Get rid of the Charisma routine in the pep rally; make the dances less suggestive, or offer men an equal opportunity to participate. I leave school on Homecoming Day feeling deflated rather than excited, angered rather than ecstatic. Please make this week comfortable and safe for all Greyhounds, regardless of their gender.
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J • Sep 26, 2016 at 6:22 pm
The girls on Charisma practice their butt off and are doing what they love to do. Why should that right be taken away from them because some immature boys are catcalling them? I honestly feel like that’s the same thing as someone saying oh it’s okay that he raped her because she was wearing a short dress and she was asking for it. NO. They aren’t asking for it, girls should be able to wear and do what they want without having to worry about what boys might do to them. The boys cross country team runs without shirts on all the time and you don’t see any girls saying that they are asking for it. If you don’t want to watch it then don’t watch it. No one is forcing you to watch them, close your eyes, go get a hot dog or something, just don’t look. It’s a shame on you if you are hearing guys downgrade the hardworking girls and not doing anything about it. The girls aren’t the ones who are to blame, it’s people like you who just sit their and do nothing but complain that are the real problem.
Margaret New • Sep 26, 2016 at 2:56 pm
Why was this “perspective” not pointed against the men and boys in the school who are catcalling, like you claim? Why was this piece not directed at them and making them stop, rather than directed at the girls who are proud of what they do and proud to showcase it for the school? Why should the dance team have to stop to ensure YOU are comfortable, rather than making the REAL problem stop? What the women of CHS should not be subjected to is the catcalling, period – but that should not include asking the dance team not to dance.
What you’re doing is continuing to allow boys – soon to be men – to perpetuate rape culture – yep, I said it – by making comments about what other women and girls do, how they look, how they move. The Charisma dance team should be able to dress however they want – dance however they want – and YOU should support them, not cringe. You should speak out in their defense, not act as if you are “put upon” or “powerless” by having to watch them from the stands. These are hard-working and talented girls and your discomfort in the editorial says more about YOU than it does about them.
If you’re sick of the objectification, speak up and stop it at the point that it happens. If you’re sick of the stereotypes, support true equality – which includes the rights of girls to do something that they love without you taking them down in print.
“You can always tell who the strong women are. They’re the ones you see building each other up, instead of tearing each other down.”
And – “No can make you feel inferior without your permission.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
Stand up, girl – for yourself and other girls who will be strong, vocal, beautiful, smart women one day, too. None of you deserve to be the target of sexism. Solidarity!
Moira Rose • Sep 22, 2016 at 10:41 am
I’m focusing mainly on the bashing of the charisma dance team in this comment.
You say these are sexist stereotypes in highschool so I’m assuming like any logical person you’re a feminist. So it was quite shocking to me to see that you start shaming an entire group of hardworking girls. As pointed out above they make their own dance and they love preforming out there. It’s not for attention of boys because girls tend to do things that they enjoy? Your point that you heard all these awful boys saying awful things about the dancers? Stand up. Stand up for your fellow female if you are really the feminist you believe you are. I spent 4 years at CHS and every year I told multiple boys to sit down and shut up. You’re not helpless you don’t have to be a bystander. Stop blaming the dancers for the words of boys. Blame yourself for throwing your fellow girls under the bus by allowing boys to talk about them like that.
Abbey wig • Sep 22, 2016 at 1:39 pm
I support this comment 100%. Charisma girls choose to dance like that they choose to be on the team and they are amazing! Put down the boys making gross comments instead of the girls doing amazing dances.
Anonymous • Sep 20, 2016 at 11:11 pm
This article means so much to me and so many other girls. Don’t let anyone tell you that you shouldn’t have written it, because it means so much to so many of us that someone is speaking out on this topic. Thank you thank you thank you. You are a beautiful writer, Emily.
Anon • Sep 20, 2016 at 10:09 pm
Talent for writing, and I agree that the “homecoming queen” concept itself is quite sexist. However, there are important subtleties that you forget or leave out (understandable since the point of this piece is persuasion). Primarily, an “escort” need not necessarily be defined by the definition you happened to find in dictionary.com – in fact, I believe “escort” in the context it is used during homecoming comes with the connotation of being subservient to or simply accompanying. The entire fluff about the “kiss queen” and “leg king” is highly contradictory and detracts from your main argument. Judging a girl based on her kissing ability is sexist and vain, but judging a man on his legs is some kind of unique male privilege? Sounds like you have a problem with the dress code in general, and, if so, I am inclined to point out there are plenty of things women are allowed to wear that men are not. Finally, the conclusion regarding Charisma is fantastically written albeit missing a major clarification: the girls make their own dance. Taken that into account, it now appears as if you are demeaning their artistry and as someone mentioned above, empowering the chauvinists that lie among our gender; you imply that girls should not dress and dance a certain way because it might provoke the male gender to react inappropriately.
Kasi • Sep 19, 2016 at 3:24 pm
Well done, Emily! Kudos to you for speaking up, which is so helpful and positive! I know that there are many other girls out there who are glad someone is speaking up for them even when they are afraid to.
Emily • Sep 19, 2016 at 3:22 pm
Well spoken, and bravely. It’s not easy to stand against traditions such as these, which teachers and administrators have never questioned, as a student, and you are right to do so. Men learned to objectify women when they were in school, during traditions like this. Women learned to devalue themselves in school, through traditions like this. And when no one ever questions it, especially teachers, students learn that this is the way the world has to be – and it doesn’t. Thanks for working towards changing this for the better. It’s a brave step, and you’re doing great.
Jacob Riedel • Sep 18, 2016 at 10:07 pm
Regarding the dictionary.com citation… If you would’ve scrolled down the page another inch, you would’ve seen another definition that states an escort is “a man or boy who accompanies a woman or girl in public, as to a social event.” Also, the legs king pictures barely show up to middle thigh, when short shorts banned by CHS’s policies for girls bans shorts that go definitely higher than mid thigh. These are high school traditions meant to be light hearted and fun, it’s not that deep. The kiss queen can be looked at in the same light, it’s only a lip mark, nothing more. The high school is not forcing anyone to participate in these activities. If you don’t want to vote because you don’t agree with it, then don’t. Other people find these fun, or else they wouldn’t have them.
E • Sep 18, 2016 at 9:27 pm
Your points are valid, but fail to see any side that isn’t your opinion.
-“Online voting for Homecoming Queen only provides the yearbook photograph of the student nominated with no accompanying message.” Almost none of the people who are nominated are actually running or want to be princess, they are nominated by their peers in a popularity contest or for comic reasons. There is nothing for them to say about the position if they don’t want it. Plus, what would they actually say? There’s no good reason anyone should be princess/queen. What type of qualifications do you need? What would you endorse?
-“Dictionary.com defines an escort as “a person accompanying another for protection or guidance.” Women don’t need “protection” or “guidance” from a man”. Dictionary.com is not a source any journalist should aim to use for any reason. However, Dictionary.com also calls an escort “a man or boy who accompanies a woman or girl in public, as to a social event.” So much for transparency, hey? I’m also very positive that if a girl wanted to bring another girl, no one would object. Or, why wouldn’t you want your significant other or close friend to support you? It’s not subservient, it’s support.
-“The men of the school are allowed to participate in a competition based on legs.” Well, I’ve seen a lot of girls butts hanging out of their shorts over the years, but never a man’s. I agree that there’s a double standard by not letting girls enter both competitions, and vice versa, but I don’t think it goes against the dress code by letting males participate.
-“The Charisma’s dance, for example, can be truly uncomfortable for the female student body, as it is often full of sexual moves, and sitting in the stands surrounded by boys catcalling the dancers is not something the women of CHS should be subjected to.” How about those dancers? You are completely disregarding their handwork, and essentially shaming them because of men’s actions. You are putting men in a position of power by saying these dancers should not be able to perform their work because of other people’s reactions. Also, just because you have an issue with the way they are dancing doesn’t mean other people do. Dance is an art form, and it’s a shame that many boys do not appreciate those women for their work and art. You are allowing them to win by saying these women should not be able to express themselves through art.
Overall, you have offered no solutions to these issues and have not used credible arguments to support your opinions. This is not journalism and hardly a column because of that.
Aaron Surface • Sep 18, 2016 at 8:11 pm
I’m sorry if my legs offended you last year, oh wait no I’m not…
e • Sep 20, 2016 at 2:28 pm
I love you Aaron
Maggie Lengerich • Sep 18, 2016 at 1:15 pm
You go Emily. I’m so proud of you for printing this because it needs to be heard. I don’t go to your school but I relate to some of the things you are addressing. This is a wonderful article and I couldn’t have said any of this any better.